But I am interested in the information that was shared about parenting styles. Would you please explain them?
A: Following are descriptions of common parenting styles.
- believe that to love their children their lives must revolve around them;
- hover and then rescue their children;
- “protect” their children from anything that may come in their way; and
- try to create the perfect world for their children where they never have to fail, struggle, feel disappointment or discomfort.
Helicopter parenting is not beneficial to children because:
- children are unequipped for the challenges of life.
- opportunities for children to learn were taken from them.
- in order to grow children must learn from their mistakes.
- in the real world no one takes care of them.
Drill Sergeant parents:
- believe that the more they yell the more control they have;
- constantly tell their children what to do;
- often use words full of put-downs; and
- believe kids should be disciplined.
Drill Sergeant parenting encourages children to:
- become dependent on their parents for the answers;
- fall into peer pressure more easily because they are used to being told what to do;
- do not learn how to make decisions; and
- become followers … as they have been taught.
Laissez Faire parents:
- let children raise themselves;
- believe that they should be their child’s friend; and
- feel guilty and allow their children to run free.
Laissez Faire parenting does not work because:
- children need rules and consequences from which to learn;
- children are not adults and can not self-regulate; and
- parents are parents, not friends
Consultant parents are most effective with children because they:
- provide firm limits and guidelines;
- have natural consequences;
- understand the development of the child;
- allow children to think and make decisions on their own; and
- provide choices for their children.